I think it is safe to say that everyone is privy to a bout of mid-twenty life crisis. It can be a really volatile time for us millennials who are still working our way up the career ladder and figuring out what we want out of life.
Most of us are still pretty low on the workplace totem pole, which means we have a lot of superiors. Almost everyone with a career has had to deal with a difficult boss or manager, which can be one of the biggest factors in causing professional growing pains.
I have had my fair share of rough supervisors throughout my life, including professional and part-time jobs in high school. I have come to realize that yes there are two sides to every story and that I know I can be difficult, but a good deal amount of the time I was not always to blame. My experiences taught me a lot about how to cope with individuals I felt were workplace bullies.
Figure out your role
As I mentioned before, there are two sides to every story. For every office horror story, the biggest (and most difficult) thing for me is to attempt to look objectively at the situation. I try to figure out what my part played in the problem. This is so hard for me especially, but I try my best and if I can figure out what I did wrong it helps me prevent similar incidents or at the very least know that I did all that I could.
In the past it became really easy for me to get wrapped up in putting all the blame on myself when it was not always the case, causing me to take a burden home with me full of anxiety and insecurities. So taking a step back and looking to see objectively can sometimes help me realize that yes I did do everything I could.
Do not dwell
Another issue I’ve had in the past is dwelling on any incident that has happened. Lately, I have been working on allotting a small amount of time on venting to one particular person and then letting it go. I really have not been great at upholding this rule, but when I do it makes such a difference.
A large part of getting upset and letting these small incidents resonate for a longer period of time was getting more worked up by dissecting what happened over and over, making it more dramatic.
Laughter is the best medicine
This leads me to my last thought in dealing with a tyrannical boss. I make any incident that I felt poorly treated a laughable moment. As long as the incident is not considered abuse or is not ethically wrong, it helps to just downplay it. Realizing that whatever is happening is not my problem but it is the other individual’s personal issues has really allowed me to walk away from these situations without thinking twice. I simply just laugh it off after it is over.
These are things that I have learned to help me through the years. It may not help for everyone but I just think sharing thoughts and experiences is important. If what I have learned for myself could help and be valuable to someone else, even just one other person, then that would make me happy.
How do you deal with unpleasant coworkers?